tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-24607242.post5886569872890920710..comments2023-08-14T08:57:27.750-04:00Comments on The View From Here: Emasculating American BoysGunfighterhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05762432006297768871noreply@blogger.comBlogger14125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-24607242.post-87855677461341554182009-02-11T13:16:00.000-05:002009-02-11T13:16:00.000-05:00Gunfighter, i have to say this article is the best...Gunfighter, i have to say this article is the best, most articulate argument against the steady emasculation of males that i have evr read. I didn't understand that this was a problem until i had a son myself and saw what total wimps a lot of his peers were shaping up to be. Excellent work.Unknownhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13677993509517591450noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-24607242.post-10572389952487821092008-11-06T03:10:00.000-05:002008-11-06T03:10:00.000-05:00Hey my name is Kyla and I am 19 yrs. old and I thi...Hey my name is Kyla and I am 19 yrs. old and I think this post is AMAZING! I COMPLETELY AGREE! We are taking ssoo much away from young men these days and it makes me sick. My boyfriend is an amazing man and he is ALL man. The right amount of tough and soft. I don't want to soften him up anymore he is enough and in the way God intended him to be. If he didn't want to get out there and get dirty and blow things up Id' be worried. Give the boys their pop guns back...give them their sling-shots..give them their cowboy hats and indian feathers. LET BOYS BE BOYS AND MEN BE MEN!!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-24607242.post-47528848398317216262006-11-13T14:21:00.000-05:002006-11-13T14:21:00.000-05:00eb,
I think that most of my readers are women bec...eb,<br /><br />I think that most of my readers are women because my first contact with other bloggers was with Suzanne... and then many of her readers, and so on.<br /><br />A great many (even most)of my friends are women.Gunfighterhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05762432006297768871noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-24607242.post-59895050152667617642006-11-06T06:20:00.000-05:002006-11-06T06:20:00.000-05:00Pundit Mom,
Everything you said was valid, and I ...Pundit Mom,<br /><br />Everything you said was valid, and I wish I had concrete answers for them. I don't.<br /><br />Having an involved dad, or two fully involved parents offers no true guarantee... some things just can't be controlled.<br /><br />The point of my post is that we must all do as much as we can. As a society, we can, and certainly must do better than we are now.Gunfighterhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05762432006297768871noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-24607242.post-69012017971673613152006-11-04T17:08:00.000-05:002006-11-04T17:08:00.000-05:00Great post! I don't know how I missed this before...Great post! I don't know how I missed this before. I agree that fathers are important raising sons, but it doesn't stop there. Father's are important raising daugthers too! Father's are important! I cannot imagine not having my father in my life.Lisa Johnsonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08096947438461486505noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-24607242.post-7712892663316517622006-11-03T10:32:00.000-05:002006-11-03T10:32:00.000-05:00Hello WORDSROCK
(Nice name by the way)
I don't th...Hello <b>WORDSROCK</b><br />(Nice name by the way)<br /><br />I don't think <b>GUNFIGHTER</b> was saying, or even emplying, that it is IMPOSSIBLE for a woman to raise a good and righteous man.<br /><br />The point he was making, and one that I agree with 100%, is that a positive and quality father [or father figure] in a boys life is invaluable. It provides a component that ALL boys need to reach a level of positive manhood that cannot be reached by a woman alone.<br /><br />Let me explain-<br />Single mothers raise good and decent men all the time. That is a fact - Gunfighter himself is proof of that. Mothers can teach their boys to be honest and respectful and educated and God fearing and all those wonderful things. These boys become men and they can keep these qualities and they are decent and strong. NO doubt about that.<br /><br />Let me digress for a second...<br />Have you ever baked cookies from scratch? If the answer is yes, then you know have usually have to add like a quarter teaspoon of salt. If you don't add that salt, you will still get cookies in the end - but they will be small, hard and puffy like hard little biscuits. The salt is vital for a chemical reaction between the baking soda, baking powder, flour and sugar and egg proteins. With salt you get soft, flat, chewy cookies.<br /><br />A decent Father [or father figure] is kinda' like that salt when it comes to boys. The time spent sitting on a fathers lap while being read to; The show of a Man's strength and gentleness to a boy; Seeing a father show love, respect and a willingness to sacrifce for a boys mother - these are things that a father can bring to a boy. A mother, no matter how wonderful cannot create these images and these feelings by herself. It is not the same.<br /><br />A boy getting a wry nod of approval from his father for knowing the difference between an Allen wrench and a socket wrench while dad was working on the car is not the same when it comes from a mother. It is a connection between the young man and the old. It is these snapshots, these events, these lessons and thousands of others like them that allow a father to polish his sons into men.<br /><br />So, God Bless the single moms! And God bless the good men they have raised! I mean that from the heart. But more men need to step up and fill the voids in some of these boys lives.The Thinking Black Manhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04618989261377257387noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-24607242.post-63811699121349760112006-11-03T08:55:00.000-05:002006-11-03T08:55:00.000-05:00But what about the boys who have two parents in th...But what about the boys who have two parents in the home and still don't know how to treat women?<br /><br />And what are we supposed to do with the first-grade boys who can't seem to be taught that it's not OK to hit or push the girls? What kind of men will they become?<br /><br />Rough and tumble with other boys is one thing -- but what do we do about the boys whose aggression can't be managed, even with a dad around?PunditMomhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12919969826505761593noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-24607242.post-50930776891098513772006-11-03T06:18:00.000-05:002006-11-03T06:18:00.000-05:00Suzanne,
I agree with you in the main.
I was rai...Suzanne,<br /><br />I agree with you in the main.<br /><br />I was raised by two women, and I turned out fine (I think).<br /><br />Fortunately, I was influenced heavily by negative example so I learned a lot about what I <i>should</i> be from seeing what I <b>shouldn't</b> be.<br /><br />I was lucky, I had a role model, but I think that might be the subject of another post.<br /><br />Yes, a real man can be raised by women... but it takes an exceptional woman... and you, my friend, are certainly that.Gunfighterhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05762432006297768871noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-24607242.post-6115360505951973572006-11-02T18:31:00.000-05:002006-11-02T18:31:00.000-05:00This is an interesting post. I agree that men nee...This is an interesting post. I agree that men need to be fathers, there is no substitute in a child's life.<br /><br />But... and I have a first hand experience... it is not impossible for a child raised primarily by women to be a decent and righteous Manly Man. Women also know and can teach what makes a good man.Suzannehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17832720652240317984noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-24607242.post-56721931410788870932006-11-02T13:34:00.000-05:002006-11-02T13:34:00.000-05:00AMEN, GUNFIGHTER!!!
AMEN,
AMEN,
AMEN!!!
A fathers...<b>AMEN, GUNFIGHTER!!!<br />AMEN,<br />AMEN,<br />AMEN!!!</b><br /><br />A fathers presence, a quality fathers presence, is absolutely paramount to boys en route to manhood.<br /><br />This bothers my heart sometimes because there are so many males [I refuse to call them men] that get a girl/woman pregnant and then just leaves her and his child like they mean nothing. Or in some cases the courts make these losers pay $45 a month in child support and these guys go and boast about "Yeah, I take care of my kids!" Give me a break!<br /><br />Boys need to be rough and tumble and they need to have their time getting dirty. They also need their time to learn how to be under control and respectful. They need to learn that a handshake should ALWAYS be firm and that you ALWAYS look a person in their eyes! They need to know that they can still get in trouble even when they tell the truth, and a man must always tell the truth. Further still, they need their dads with them to guide them through it all, and they need to see their dads treating their moms with love, tenderness and an overwhelming respect. <br /><br />A simply excellent post by you, as always My Brother!<br /><br />BTW - I loved Alda in <i>"Paper Lion"</i> and <i>"Canadian Bacon"</i>. Re-runs of the last episode of M*A*S*H still get me right here...The Thinking Black Manhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04618989261377257387noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-24607242.post-51705353442046257742006-11-02T02:08:00.000-05:002006-11-02T02:08:00.000-05:00I agree. Children need both parents because mothe...I agree. Children need both parents because mothering and fathering are different. Fathers are important to the development of their sons and their daughters, too. There are way too many girls that behave agressively and become sexually active way too early to make up for the lack of positive attention they should be getting from a father. Dads are important all around.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-24607242.post-11170609271570194642006-11-02T01:44:00.000-05:002006-11-02T01:44:00.000-05:00That's why it's so important that kids have both p...That's why it's so important that kids have both parents. I love my son to pieces. And I'm fully aware that I have strong "mothering" tendencies. It's hard for me to think of him even doing such basic boy things as playing hockey. That's why he need his dad. Cause dad can do it. He can show him. <br /><br />I think sometimes women forget that they are not raising boys, they are raising men. And as much as I wouldn't want to be married to a girly man (I'm old fashioned a bit), I wouldn't want my son to be one either. <br /><br />PS: Though, on the upside, even though I'm a girl, I have been in fistfights. Sometimes you have no choice. And if my son never stands up for himself, or for someone who needs his protection, then I'm really doing my job wrong.vasilisahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07751000715441075002noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-24607242.post-26211922097379650332006-11-01T15:39:00.000-05:002006-11-01T15:39:00.000-05:00Sorry that post is mine I don't know why the name ...Sorry that post is mine I don't know why the name is differentRissamama3https://www.blogger.com/profile/07067167845097870458noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-24607242.post-75645749430592784232006-11-01T15:36:00.000-05:002006-11-01T15:36:00.000-05:00Great post, I am the single mom of a little boy wh...Great post, I am the single mom of a little boy who is a boys boys and I agree with you there are things I can't teach him. I am lucky I have Jman who has taken him on wholeheartedly and is doing a great job. That being said I know that I could easily coddle him into a mama's boy.<br /><br />By the way before the dye job I was a blonde if you check back a few posts I have a few pics of my as a blondeRissamama3https://www.blogger.com/profile/07067167845097870458noreply@blogger.com